I was sitting across from my therapist, weighed down by guilt and frustration. My ex-wife had betrayed me, and even though the relationship was over, I couldn\u2019t stop blaming myself.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow did I not see it?\u201d I kept asking. \u201cThe signs were there. I should\u2019ve known.\u201d<\/p>\n
Without a word, my therapist scribbled something on his yellow notepad. Then he leaned in and held it right up to my face \u2014 so close it almost touched my nose.<\/p>\n
\u201cRead this,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
I squinted. I couldn\u2019t make out a single word.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s too close,\u201d I said, confused.<\/p>\n
He pulled it back a few inches. And then I read it clearly:<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re too close to see it.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n That moment hit me like a wave. I had been in<\/em> it \u2014 too entangled, too hopeful, too invested \u2014 to see the truth. But now, with distance, it all made sense.<\/p>\n It wasn\u2019t about being foolish. It was about being human. I was sitting across from my therapist, weighed down by guilt and frustration. My ex-wife had betrayed me, and even though the relationship was over, I couldn\u2019t stop blaming myself. \u201cHow did I not see it?\u201d I kept asking. \u201cThe signs were there. I should\u2019ve known.\u201d Without a word, my therapist scribbled something on his …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6378,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6377","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6377","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=6377"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6377\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6379,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6377\/revisions\/6379"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/6378"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=6377"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=6377"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wildwondertube.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=6377"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
And with that simple realization, I finally stopped blaming myself. I started to let go.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"