So I’m (30M) talking to my wife (30F) yesterday, and she jokingly mentions how our son (3M) is clearly going to be a ladies man because he is CONSTANTLY trying to find ways to snuggle and fondle boobs/butts. In response, I say of course, what guy doesn’t? Heck, I even know many straight women and gay men who appreciate feeling some nice boobs or a good butt.
She then tells me we can never be sure, however, because she’s been attracted to women and if it’s genetic he could be attracted to men too when he’s older. I. Was. Floored.
We’ve been married for 8 years, known each other since elementary school, so we’ve had some pretty deep conversations. We’ve also had some very… Detailed discussions of what we’re into, since we’re both pretty big on communication. I can’t help but feel like this is a huge secret she’s been keeping from me? I realize this is selfish in a way, and I can’t say I’m “upset” at her for it, but it’s just such a shocking revelation…
I had to pry, of course, when I realized she was serious, and she explained that she discovered it in high school, had a few one-offs with girls WE BOTH KNOW, and has had a few crushes over the years but never really pursued anything, especially once we were together. I told her I couldn’t believe she’s kept this from me for so long. She said it’s not something she’s totally comfortable talking about, and I jokingly said “But think of all the fun we could’ve had in college?” Which she laughed at and said, “Trust me, there were plenty of opportunities I was too scared to mention to you back then.” I laughed it off and we went about our day, but now the curiosity is eating away at me. I don’t want to pry more, because she mentioned how it makes her uncomfortable to talk about, but I know myself and there is no way I will be able to just “let this go.”
Where the hell do I go from here? lol.
