Chloe, you asked for help, not a favor out of nowhere. You reached out to someone who claimed to love being around her granddaughter, and instead of even considering your request, she insulted you — and frankly, all parents who do this hard work every day. Calling childcare “beneath her” wasn’t just tone-deaf; it was cruel.
And your husband? His silence hurt more than the comment. It’s one thing to have a difficult MIL — many of us do — but when your partner doesn’t stand up for you, it creates a bigger fracture. You’re not being “petty.” You’re setting boundaries, protecting your peace, and teaching your daughter what self-respect looks like.
Linda doesn’t get to insult you and still expect open access to your child. Being a grandmother isn’t a title — it’s a role, and it has to be earned with love, respect, and humility.
You did the right thing. Full stop.
